CASE #003Justice4 min read

"That's Not Fair!"

When every small thing turns into a courtroom battle.

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Key clue

The biggest reactions come when rules feel uneven between siblings.

First move tonight

Name the feeling first, then explain the reason — briefly.

For some kids, fairness isn't a preference. It's how they make sense of the world. When something feels uneven, their whole body reacts.

What to try tonight

Start with, "It feels really unfair to you." Then give one short reason. Skip the long debate — you don't need to win the case to keep the peace.

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